In this series of posts I’ve been talking primarily to men.  The subject has been praying for our wives.  Today is part three in this ongoing conversation.  Thus far you’ve learned that praying for your wife means you will undergo change.  God will begin to work in your wife’s life by first preparing you to be a change agent for her.  But being a change agent means that you will change first.

Today’s question is this – Men, do you understand that your treatment of your wife is a commentary on you and not her?  I can hear the grumbling already, but guys think about this.  God has called us as husbands to love our wives and to sacrifice ourselves for her. Sacrificial love does not seek its own welfare as of first importance.  It is concerned primarily with loving others, and I might add, loving others extravagantly.

Some might question that last qualifier – extravagant – as a proper descriptor of the love that we should have for our wives but I ask you to consider that loving your wife in a sacrificial manner means that you will not allow any earthly thing to become a priority in your life over your wife. You will see her as a reason to celebrate God’s goodness to you. In effect, you are becoming a servant leader to her.

This heart attitude reflects your understanding that your wife is God’s gift to you.  When was the last time that you considered that truth?  God matched the two of you to become one flesh for His glory and honor. Does your treatment of your wife reflect this reality?  Here is where the rubber meets the road.  No excuses are accepted.  Leaders lead by example, so show the world that you value your wife by your words and actions.

Your relationship with your wife is a mirror that reflects what is in your heart. Take the time today to pray earnestly for your wife. When you do you will notice a definite heart change in you and in time if it is necessary, in your wife.

Men, these truths can be transforming moments in your lives if you recognize the opportunities before you.

Stay tuned for Part 4 of “Men – Pray For Your Wives.”

God bless you today as you seek Him.